OK. No long presentations or video’s this time. I’m sure some of you are yet to see the previous one’s. Please find below a tip from Jamie Smart, an NLP trainer. Perhaps while reading it the second time you may find that it makes sense…
During the 80s & 90s, I thought that the key to financial security was pay increases. I worked hard, switched jobs every 2 years & increased my salary. I noticed that the contractors who worked alongside me earned 2 or 3 times what I did, so eventually I went contract & increased my income further. Then I read “Rich Dad Poor Dad”, where I learned that “passive income” was the key to financial security. I created Salad & developed a strong passive income stream.
Have you spotted the pattern yet?
I’ll feel financially secure when I get a bigger salary.
I’ll feel financially secure when I’ve got a contract income.
I’ll feel financially secure when I develop passive income.
I was trying to get an internal feeling (security) from external factors (salary, bank balance, sales figures etc). Oops!
As human beings, what we most desire is feelings. Feelings of love, success, fulfilment, peace, joy, happiness, security etc. We live in a society that trains us to believe that we need to use external things (money, fame, partners, cars, jobs, achievements) in order to access those feelings. This is a lie.
Looking on the outside for something that exists on the inside is a classic case of looking in the wrong place (this is also the structure of addiction, as it happens).
1) Identify a goal / change / fix you’ve been believing will make you feel a certain way (Hint: it probably has the structure “I’ll feel A when B happens.”)
Here are some examples:
- I’ll feel secure when I’ve got X amount of money in the bank.
- I’ll feel successful once I’ve accomplished X, Y & Z.
- I’ll feel peaceful when I change this limiting belief.
The fact that you can even say this (I’ll feel A when B happens) means that you have an internal representation of the feeling (A). It also means that you’ve been conditioned into thinking that you actually need to have the external experience (B) before you can allow yourself to feel it. Once again, this is a lie!
You are already emotionally complete. You don’t need anything in order to feel your feelings.
2) Ask yourself “What would happen if I allowed myself to feel it (A) now?”
People sometimes think that if they allowed themselves to feel their feelings now, they would lose the motivation to change, grow & achieve. But that doesn’t seem to be how it works. Happy, successful entrepreneurs feel successful whether their businesses are prospering or not.
3) Change your criteria for feeling the feelings you want.
Here are some examples:
- I can feel secure now, because I have awareness. There was a time when all I had was awareness, & now look at me!
- I can feel successful now, because I’m alive. Living is the evolutionary gold star.
- I can feel peaceful now, because I can accept myself exactly as I am.
As my friend Michael Neill says…
“Unhappy people want what they want in order to make them happy. Happy people just want what they want.”
This is part of why affirmations can be so powerful. When you feel how you’ll feel when you’ve got what you want, it subtly reminds you that you don’t need the stuff in order to get the feeling.
Believing that you need ANYTHING in order to feel happy / fulfilled / whole is the epitome of neediness. Knowing that you are already complete is the epitome of abundance.
. I have in one go also added the Fresh News updates that I previously had distributed by email.
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